"Nieces are the children that we borrow,
Intending not to raise but merely love,
Ever watchful from our open window,
Caring deeply at a slight remove.
Everywhere you go, my love will follow,
Still part of you wherever you may live."
Dear little Miss Dylan Jade Delitz,
I am excitedly awaiting your arrival as are your parents and grandparents. You have been born into a family of so much love and support we often times don't know what to do with ourselves lol. When you get here, there are so many things that I want to tell you...so many things I will tell you, I should say. But just in case I don't remember them all...or just in case you ever need a quick reminder...they're all going to be right here:)
1. You are so very beautiful Dylan. Let no one ever tell you or make you feel differently. There is a reason I say beautiful instead of pretty. Pretty means that you are physically attractive...and you are. You are gorgeous love. But that is not beauty. One who is beautiful is gorgeous both inside and out. Your prettiness means nothing if you are ugly inside. There's a light in you little one, do not lose it.
2. You are intelligent. And I know this because you come from a very intelligent family. Your aunt happens to be a genius lol...juuust joshing. Anywho! Because of this, you will be held to a higher standard than you feel is fair. I have high expectations of you little one....and I wouldn't have them if you couldn't do it. So hit the ground running.
3. Express yourself sweetie! You may have your own little style when you get of age....and if you're anything like your aunt....your mother and grandmother won't too much like it lol. But if it makes you comfortable...rock it.
4. There is only one Dylan Jade. And no one can be you better than you can. So since you are the best at the job, take pride in it and do it well. Don't ever try to become someone that you are not. There is a reason you were born who you are. And that's because just by being who you are...you're awesome:)
5. There is a reason for everything. Everything that happens, it happens to teach you something. Be open to the lesson.
6. If I could save you from heartbreak I would sweetie. And I hate thinking that one day someone will make you cry but I know that through it all you will learn more than anyone could ever tell you. So I'll just say this: It will be okay. I know it will hurt and I know it will feel like it will never get better....but, trust me, it will. So cry, scream...do whatever you have to. And then pick yourself back up and move forward. You will be happy again. And a lot of it will make you laugh. And the bad times wll be a distant memory. Don't ever feel like no one knows what you're going through because....just a little secret....between you and me?..........te te jade's been through it too:)
7.Forgive quickly. I don't want you to misunderstand this so I will explain. It is never okay for someone to mistreat you or cause you harm. Don't let them convince you that it is. Leave the situation. What I mean by forgive quickly is after you leave the situation...the anger, the hurt, the resentment.....let it go. Do not ever hold a grudge, no matter the circumstances. There will be people that tell you that you should but they are wrong. This is especially true when it comes to heartbreak. At one point in time, you loved this person. You don't fall in love with bad people. Which means that he is a good person...he just made some bad choices. Believe it or not, you are going to make some bad choices that hurt people too. So it is okay to forgive. Anger keeps the wound open. Forgiveness is what heals. Don't force it though. it won't come that way. Let it come naturally. Don't speak bad about the situation or the person, find things to busy yourself. And IT IS OKAY TO MISS THEM. Lol this is natural, you had good times. So if the thought comes, let it, and keep going with the day. Take all the time you need. Then maybe, just maybe....a frienship can be salvaged. Either way, youre okay little one:)
8. Own up to your mistakes. In my previous point, I said that you are going to do some things or make some choices that hurt people you care about. This may be intional or unintentional...but it will happen. The worst thing you can do is try and find a reason to give for it happening. Blaming it on everyone and everything. It happened because you did it; it was no one's fault but yours. I know this sounds harsh honey but its true. When this happens, own up to it....and then apologize to those you hurt. Remember, depending on what you did your apology may not be accepted the way you want it to..... or at all. Don't get upset, don't argue, don't insult. After all, you did do something wrong. Just apologize and make it known how truly sorry you are. be genuine. This is all you can do. In addition to not doing it again lol. It took your te te a loooooooong time to learn this lesson and because of that...it didn't end well at all. And I hurt ppl I cared about in the same ways I was hurt. No one won. Learn from my mistakes, i won't lead you wrong.
9. I am your cheerleader, your crying tissue, you shoulder to lean on....alllllllll of that. Do not ever be afraid to come to me for ANYTHING you need. If I have it, its yours. ALWAYS. I have your back pook.
10. Your virginity is a one-time gift. I'm not going to tell you when you're ready to give it away. Only you will know that. But I will tell you this. The people that say that it is just sex and not that big of a deal are LYING. That one physical connection opens emotions you can't even imagine. Be sure about it. If you aren't in love with the person and if you don't trust them completely....don't do it. But if you do decide that it's time and somewhere down the road the relationship turns sour.....remember that you shared this gift because you loved them and at the time it was something you wanted to do. Do not regret it. Also, remember that this is your gift to give....not his to take. He is not entitled to sex with you so if he's pressuring you....drop him. This is one of those things I definitely want you to come to me about before you do anything. Don't worry, I won't tell your mom lol.
11. You don't get respect from saying you want it, you demand it through your actions. Carry yourself like a young lady at all times.
12. Black is beautiful baby girl:) I'm so glad you have people like Oprah and Michelle Obama to look up to. You're going to be doing great things just like them:)
13. Think positively at all times. When a negative thought enters your mind, become aware of it, and make it go away. Positivity will only lead to more positivity being attracted to you.
14. Life is a playground, go play. Don't take all of this too seriously. Set goals, achieve your dreams and have fun doing it all. One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it's worth watching.
I love you love bug! This is all I have on my mind as of now....it'll definitely be more as you get older. I'm a little long winded lol. Can't wait until I can hold you in my arms:)
